(A)共患難的情誼 (B)發洩 ( 憤怒 ) (C)怒氣沖沖地叫嚷
To sin is human nature, yet we don’t commit moral crimes everyday. However, more than a few of us do complain on a daily basis, so it’s not an understatement to say complaining is second nature to us. Not only that, we also like to do it together, seeking solace and (A)camaraderie from one another when (B) venting anger. The negativity could be marginally positive in alleviating the stress of daily life, but the long-term effect is determinedly undesirable. Research shows that problem-solving and cognitive abilities are hampered not just by our own complaining, but by listening to other people’s gripes as well.
It’s never easy to get rid of something rooted in nature, but a few books and ideas are there to help us. First off, to combat habitual complaining, you need to identify what counts as “complaining” and what doesn’t.
“It’s cold outside” is neutral, but “It’s cold outside and I hate the weather” is a negative statement. Secondly, you should keep a note of the number of times that you complain in a day.
After the initial preparations, you can start taking some concrete steps like distancing yourself from the complainers among your friends, and adopting a proactive attitude. Whining together doesn’t constitute healthy friendships, and things that you dislike won’t (1) disappear into thin air just by swearing and (2) pointing fingers at them.
There are also a couple of tricks that you could use to avoid regression. For example, when you feel like (C) ranting about your boss, you can say “He gave me too much work, BUT I was able to finished it in time,” and instead of yelling “I can’t believe I HAVE TO make the presentation,” you can change the negativity by thinking “I can’t believe I GET TO make the presentation.”
- Disappear into thin air
Malaysia Air MH370 stopped communications less than an hour after taking off, as if disappearing into thin air.
- Point fingers at 指責，歸咎於
The jail hostage incident caused 6 deaths, and the public is pointing fingers at the prison administration.