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style=\"color: #800000;\"><strong>1. \u4e86\u89e3\u81ea\u5df1\u5e0c\u671b\u88ab\u5982\u4f55\u5c0d\u5f85<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u81e8\u5e8a\u5fc3\u7406\u5b78\u5bb6 Ryan Howes \u8a8d\u70ba\u5728\u5efa\u7acb\u5065\u5eb7\u7684\u500b\u4eba\u908a\u754c\u4e4b\u524d\uff0c\u6211\u5011\u9700\u8981\u77e5\u9053\uff1a<\/p>\n<p>\uff081\uff09\u81ea\u5df1\u559c\u6b61\u4ec0\u9ebc\u3001\u4e0d\u559c\u6b61\u4ec0\u9ebc\uff1b<br \/>\n\uff082\uff09\u4ec0\u9ebc\u8b93\u6211\u5011\u611f\u89ba\u8212\u670d\uff0c\u4ec0\u9ebc\u6703\u8b93\u6211\u5011\u611f\u5230\u5bb3\u6015<br \/>\n\uff083\uff09\u5728\u4e0d\u540c\u7684\u60c5\u5883\u4e0b\uff0c\u6211\u5011\u5e0c\u671b\u88ab\u600e\u6a23\u5c0d\u5f85\u3002 \uff08Tartakovsky, 2015\uff09<br \/>\n\uff084\uff09\u5728\u9019\u5e7e\u9ede\u4e0a\u8d8a\u662f\u6e05\u6670\uff0c\u6211\u5011\u6703\u8d8a\u662f\u77e5\u9053\u8a72\u5982\u4f55\u5efa\u7acb\u500b\u4eba\u908a\u754c\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u76f8\u53cd\uff0c\u5982\u679c\u5c0d\u65bc\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u504f\u597d\u90fd\u662f\u6a21\u7cca\u7684\uff0c\u6211\u5011\u5f88\u5bb9\u6613\u5c31\u6703\u88ab\u5e36\u8457\u8d70\uff0c\u800c\u9019\u6642\u6211\u5011\u6703\u611f\u5230\u81ea\u5df1\u53ea\u80fd\u4e00\u76f4\u9077\u5c31\u5c0d\u65b9\u3002\u96a8\u8457\u95dc\u4fc2\u767c\u5c55\uff0c\u9084\u6709\u53ef\u80fd\u6703\u300c\u83ab\u540d\u5176\u5999\u5c31\u53d7\u4e86\u50b7\u300d\u3002<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><strong>2. \u5805\u5b88\u908a\u754c\u3001\u9069\u7576\u62d2\u7d55<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u6709\u6642\u6211\u5011\u6703\u89ba\u5f97\u62d2\u7d55\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u8981\u6c42\u8b93\u6211\u5011\u986f\u5f97\u81ea\u79c1\uff0c\u53ea\u9867\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u611f\u53d7\uff0c\u4e5f\u5bb3\u6015\u6703\u56e0\u6b64\u50b7\u5bb3\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u60c5\u611f\u4ee5\u53ca\u9019\u6bb5\u95dc\u4fc2\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u5982\u679c\u6211\u5011\u56e0\u70ba\u5e0c\u671b\u8a0e\u597d\u5225\u4eba\uff0c\u800c\u653e\u68c4\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u908a\u754c\uff0c\u4e0d\u65b7\u5730\u9806\u5f9e\u3001\u8cbc\u8fd1\u5c0d\u65b9\uff0c\u5c31\u6709\u53ef\u80fd\u50cf\u6e21\u908a\u7d14\u4e00\u6240\u8aaa\u7684\u90a3\u6a23\uff1a<span style=\"color: #800000;\"><strong>\u8ddd\u96e2\u592a\u8fd1\uff0c\u611b\u4e5f\u6703\u8b8a\u6210\u4e00\u7a2e\u6d88\u6975\u7684\u6771\u897f<\/strong><\/span>\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u7576\u6211\u5011\u5805\u5b88\u908a\u754c\u6642\uff0c\u53ea\u662f\u5728\u8868\u9054\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u9700\u6c42\u548c\u504f\u597d\uff0c\u800c\u62d2\u7d55\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u8981\u6c42\u4e26\u4e0d\u610f\u5473\u8457\u8981\u5f15\u8d77\u885d\u7a81\uff0c\u66f4\u4e0d\u610f\u5473\u8457\u4e0d\u611b\u4e86\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u9019\u662f\u5805\u5b88\u908a\u754c\u6240\u7d66\u4e88\u6211\u5011\u7684\u52c7\u6c23\u548c\u4fe1\u5fc3\u3002<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><strong>3. VAR \u6280\u5de7\u4e4b\u300c\u6200\u611b\u7bc7\u300d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u6211\u5011\u4ecb\u7d39\u904e\u4e00\u5957\u63d0\u5347\u6709\u6548\u5805\u5b9a\u611f\uff08effective assertiveness\uff09\u7684 3 \u6b65\u6280\u5de7\uff0c\u4e5f\u53eb\u4f5cVAR \u6280\u5de7\uff08Fielding, 2015\uff09\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u9019 3 \u6b65\u5206\u5225\u662f\uff1a<\/p>\n<p>Validate\uff08\u8b49\u5be6\uff09\uff1a\u8b49\u5be6\uff0f\u78ba\u8a8d\uff0f\u627f\u8a8d\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u8655\u5883<br \/>\nAssert\uff08\u5805\u6301\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u4e3b\u5f35\uff09 \uff1a\u7121\u8ad6\u662f\u63d0\u51fa\u8acb\u6c42\u9084\u662f\u8868\u9054\u62d2\u7d55\uff0c\u505a\u5230\u6e05\u6670\u3001\u76f4\u63a5\u3001\u5177\u9ad4<br \/>\nReinforce\uff08\u5f37\u5316\uff09\uff1a\u544a\u8a34\u5c0d\u65b9\u4f60\u70ba\u5c0d\u65b9\u8457\u60f3\u7684\u90e8\u5206<\/p>\n<p>\u5982\u679c\u6211\u5011\u7528 VAR 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href=\"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/06\/09\/how-to-confort-others\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u670b\u53cb\u96e3\u904e\u7684\u6642\u5019\uff0c\u5c31\u662f\u6211\u6700\u624b\u8db3\u7121\u63aa\u7684\u6642\u5019\uff01\u6b63\u78ba\u7684\u5b89\u6170\u4eba\u6307\u5357\u8b93\u4f60\u7642\u7652\u6307\u6578\u98c6\u5347<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/03\/17\/people-pleaser\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u300c\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u76e1\u529b\u8a0e\u597d\uff0c\u537b\u90fd\u6c92\u6709\u56de\u5831\uff1f\u300d\u5225\u518d\u7576\u51b7\u843d\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u8a0e\u597d\u8005\uff01<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\uff08\u672c\u6587\u7d93\u5408\u4f5c\u5925\u4f34\u7c21\u55ae\u5fc3\u7406\u6388\u6b0a\u8f49\u8f09\uff0c\u4e26\u540c\u610f VidaOrange \u7de8\u5beb\u5c0e\u8b80\u8207\u4fee\u8a02\u6a19\u984c\uff0c\u539f\u6587\u6a19\u984c\u70ba\u3008<a 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