{"id":9067,"date":"2017-04-26T11:54:52","date_gmt":"2017-04-26T03:54:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/04\/26\/personal-boundaries\/"},"modified":"2021-06-16T13:05:21","modified_gmt":"2021-06-16T05:05:21","slug":"personal-boundaries","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/04\/26\/personal-boundaries\/","title":{"rendered":"\u60f3\u8aaa\u300c\u4e0d\u300d\u7684\u6642\u5019\u4e0d\u8981\u8aaa\u300c\u61c9\u8a72\u53ef\u4ee5\u300d\uff01\u7528 &#8220;VAR&#8221; \u6280\u5de7\u62d2\u7d55\u5225\u4eba\uff0c\u4f60\u7684\u5fc3\u5c31\u771f\u6b63\u81ea\u7531\u4e86"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-78033 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/04\/p38367303.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"564\" height=\"338\" 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#800000\"><strong>4.\u5617\u8a66\u62d2\u7d55<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u5982\u679c\u5225\u4eba\u63d0\u51fa\u5192\u72af\u4f60\u908a\u754c\u7684\u8acb\u6c42\u6642\uff0c\u300c\u751f\u6c23\u300d\u662f\u4e00\u7a2e\u975e\u5e38\u597d\u7684\u8fa6\u6cd5\uff0c\u9019\u7121\u95dc\u4ec0\u9ebc\u5c0f\u4e0d\u5c0f\u6c23\u6216\u662f\u958b\u4e0d\u958b\u7684\u8d77\u73a9\u7b11\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u800c\u662f\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u56e0\u70ba\u64d4\u5fc3\u60f9\u4ed6\u4eba\u4e0d\u5feb\uff0c\u5c31\u4e0d\u53bb\u8868\u9054\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u611f\u53d7\uff0c\u4f60\u7684\u4eba\u969b\u95dc\u4fc2\u53cd\u800c\u6703\u53d7\u5230\u640d\u5bb3\uff0c\u8868\u660e\u500b\u4eba\u754c\u9650\u4e26\u9069\u7576\u5730\u62d2\u7d55\uff0c\u53cd\u800c\u6709\u52a9\u65bc\u95dc\u4fc2\u7684\u767c\u5c55\u3002<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-78035 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/04\/p38367864.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"221\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>\u5982\u4f55\u5805\u5b9a\u7684\u62d2\u7d55\u4ed6\u4eba<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>\u4eca\u5929\u7d66\u4e0d\u6703\u62d2\u7d55\u4ed6\u4eba\u7684\u80d6\u53cb\u5011\u4ecb\u7d39\u4e00\u500b\u6613\u5b78\u7684\u65b9\u6cd5\uff0c\u5c31\u662f\u63d0\u5347\u6709\u6548\u5805\u5b9a\u611f\uff08effective assertiveness\uff09\u7684 3 \u6b65\u6280\u5de7\uff0c\u5373 VAR \u6280\u5de7\u3002\u5b83\u5011\u53ef\u4ee5\u5e6b\u52a9\u4f60\u6709\u6548\u5730\u8868\u660e\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u611f\u53d7\uff0c\u4e5f\u53ef\u4ee5\u70ba\u4f60\u8a2d\u7f6e\u908a\u754c\uff0c\u62d2\u7d55\u4ed6\u4eba\u3002<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>1.Validate\uff08\u8b49\u5be6\uff09\uff1a<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u8b49\u5be6\uff0f\u78ba\u8a8d\uff0f\u627f\u8a8d\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u8655\u5883<\/p>\n<p>\u7576\u4f60\u6e96\u5099\u62d2\u7d55\u4ed6\u7684\u67d0\u500b\u8acb\u6c42\u6642\uff0c\u5148\u628a\u81ea\u5df1\u653e\u5230\u5c0d\u65b9\u7684\u4f4d\u7f6e\u4e0a\uff0c\u8b49\u5be6\u3001\u9ad4\u9a57\u4e26\u627f\u8a8d\u5373\u5c07\u65bd\u52a0\u65bc\u5225\u4eba\u8eab\u4e0a\u7684\u4e0d\u9069\u611f\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u65b9\u6cd5\uff1a\u76e1\u53ef\u80fd\u7528\u6aa2\u9a57\u7684\u8a9e\u6c23\u958b\u982d\uff1a\u300c\u6211\u77e5\u9053\u4f60\u78ba\u5be6\u9700\u8981\u5e6b\u5fd9\u300d\uff0c\u6216\u8005\u4e00\u53e5\u7c21\u77ed\u7684\u300c\u6211\u660e\u767d\u4f60\u7684\u610f\u601d\u300d\uff0c\u7136\u5f8c\u518d\u63a5\u300c\u4f46\u662f\u300d\u3002<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>2.Assert\uff08\u5805\u6301\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u4e3b\u5f35\uff09 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