{"id":8973,"date":"2017-04-14T19:15:31","date_gmt":"2017-04-14T11:15:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/04\/14\/marriage-fail\/"},"modified":"2021-06-16T13:07:06","modified_gmt":"2021-06-16T05:07:06","slug":"marriage-fail","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/04\/14\/marriage-fail\/","title":{"rendered":"\u795e\u4ed9\u7737\u4fb6\u6700\u5f8c\u4e5f\u53ef\u80fd say goodbye\uff0c\u611b\u60c5\u7834\u88c2\u4e0d\u5916\u4e4e\u9019 4 \u4ef6\u5c0f\u4e8b"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: left\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-76868 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/04\/-5-e1492167479474.png\" width=\"600\" height=\"319\" \/><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p 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decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-76861 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/04\/p41985207-1.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"266\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>\u5371\u6a5f\u7e3d\u662f\u5f9e\u5c0f\u4e8b\u60c5\u958b\u59cb<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>John Gottman\u5728\u300a\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u5a5a\u59fb\u6210\u529f\u6216\u5931\u6557\u300b\u4e00\u66f8\u4e2d\u63d0\u51fa\uff0c\u7576\u4f34\u4fb6\u96d9\u65b9\u5728\u6e9d\u901a\u904e\u7a0b\u4e2d\u6709\u4ee5\u4e0b\u56db\u7a2e\u50be\u5411\u6642\uff0c\u53ef\u80fd\u662f\u5a5a\u59fb\u95dc\u4fc2\u51fa\u73fe\u554f\u984c\u7684\u4fe1\u865f\uff1a<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: 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#800000\"><strong>\u9003\u907f\u885d\u7a81\uff0c\u6216\u4e7e\u8106\u4f7f\u7528\u51b7\u66b4\u529b<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>\u4e0d\u9858\u505a\u51fa\u4e00\u4e01\u9ede\u59a5\u5354<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u90a3\u9ebc\uff0c\u5c0f\u7684\u885d\u7a81\u5c31\u53ef\u80fd\u6f14\u8b8a\u6210\u96e3\u4ee5\u8abf\u548c\u7684\u77db\u76fe\uff0c\u540c\u6a23\u7684\u885d\u7a81\u8655\u7406\u6a21\u5f0f\u4e5f\u53ef\u80fd\u6703\u5728\u672a\u4f86\u91cd\u8907\u51fa\u73fe\uff0c\u9032\u800c\u5f71\u97ff\u5a5a\u59fb\u7684\u8cea\u91cf\u3002<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-76863 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/04\/p41985269.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"266\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>2. 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loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-76864 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/04\/p41985285.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"318\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>3. 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