{"id":8786,"date":"2017-03-22T14:03:40","date_gmt":"2017-03-22T06:03:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/03\/22\/avoidant-attachment\/"},"modified":"2021-06-16T13:10:48","modified_gmt":"2021-06-16T05:10:48","slug":"avoidant-attachment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/03\/22\/avoidant-attachment\/","title":{"rendered":"\u300c\u6211\u4e0d\u9700\u8981\u6200\u611b\u3002\u300d\u3001\u300c\u6211\u9700\u8981\u7a7a\u9593\u300d\uff0c\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u6709\u4eba\u6703\u4ee5\u51b7\u6f20\u758f\u96e2\u4f86\u9003\u907f\u611b\uff1f"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"p1\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-74490 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/03\/p41278282.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"318\" \/><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\">\u300aVO\u300b\u5c0e\u8b80\uff1a\u6709\u4e00\u7a2e\u4eba\uff0c\u8b93\u611b\u4ed6\u5011\u7684\u4eba\u5f88\u8f9b\u82e6\u3002\u4ed6\u7e3d\u662f\u5634\u786c\u8aaa\u300c\u6211\u4e0d\u9700\u8981\u611b\u300d\uff0c\u4e26\u5f88\u5e0c\u671b\u5c0d\u65b9\u53ef\u4ee5\u7d66\u4ed6\u7a7a\u9593\uff0c\u4f86\u770b\u770b\u4ee5\u4e0b\u7684\u89e3\u6790\u5427\uff01<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">\uff08\u8cac\u4efb\u7de8\u8f2f\uff1a\u674e\u606c\u82b3\uff09<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\" style=\"text-align: right\"><span class=\"s1\">\u6587\uff5c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">E+<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u4f60\u8eab\u908a\u6709\u6c92\u6709\u9019\u6a23\u4e00\u7fa4\u55ae\u8eab\u72d7\uff1f\u4ed6\u5011\u7e3d\u662f\u8aaa\uff1a\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u6211\u4e26\u4e0d\u9700\u8981\u6200\u611b\u3002\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u300c\u9019\u4e16\u4e0a\u591a\u5f97\u662f\u6bd4\u611b\u60c5\u66f4\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u6771\u897f\uff0c\u8ac7\u6200\u611b\u6703\u803d\u8aa4\u6211\u5e79\u6b63\u4e8b\u7684\u3002\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u300c\u7537\u4eba\u6c38\u9060\u4e0d\u6703\u505a\u51fa\u627f\u8afe<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\/<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u5973\u4eba\u6703\u7d66\u4f60\u8a2d\u5f88\u591a\u9677\u9631\u3002\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u5c31\u7b97\u4ed6\u5011\u812b\u55ae\u4e86\uff0c\u4e5f\u6703\u5e38\u5e38\u5411\u4f60\u8a34\u82e6\uff1a<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s3\">\u300c\u4ed6<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u600e\u9ebc\u5c0d\u6211\u8981\u6c42\u9019\u9ebc\u591a\uff1f\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u300c\u4e0d\u80fd\u5c0d\u4e00\u6bb5\u611f\u60c5\u592a\u6295\u5165\uff0c\u5426\u5247\u6703\u5931\u671b\u7684\u3002\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u300c\u6211\u5c31\u4e0d\u559c\u6b61\u548c\u4ed6<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u6709\u89aa\u5bc6\u884c\u70ba\uff0c\u4f46\u6211\u80fd\u600e\u9ebc\u8fa6\uff0c\u6211\u4e5f\u5f88\u7d55\u671b\u554a\uff01\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u800c\u4ed6\u5011\u7684\u7537<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\/<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u5973\u670b\u53cb\u4e5f\u6703\u62b1\u6028\uff1a\u300c\u4ed6<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u7e3d\u8eb2\u8457\u6211\uff0c\u9019\u6200\u611b\u9084\u600e\u9ebc\u8ac7\uff1f\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u8207\u4e00\u500b\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u8ac7\u6200\u611b\uff0c\u4f60\u53ef\u80fd\u5c31\u8981\u505a\u597d\u6e96\u5099\uff0c\u73a9\u4e00\u5834\u6349\u8ff7\u85cf\u7684\u904a\u6232\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-74492 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/03\/p41278331.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"266\" \/><\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">\u4ec0\u9ebc\u662f\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\uff1f<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">\u6210\u4eba\u4f9d\u6200\u6700\u521d\u88ab\u5206\u70ba\u4e09\u7a2e\u5927\u985e\u578b\uff1a\u5b89\u5168\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s2\">secure attachment<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff09\u7684\u4eba\u4f54\u4eba\u7fa4\u7684<\/span><span class=\"s2\">60%<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u5de6\u53f3\uff0c\u7126\u616e\u77db\u76fe\u578b\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s2\">anxious preoccupied attachment<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff09\u548c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s2\">avoidant attachment<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff09\u5404\u4f54<\/span><span class=\"s2\">20%<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u4ee5\u4e0b\u662f\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u5728\u89aa\u5bc6\u95dc\u4fc2\u4e2d\u7684\u5178\u578b\u8868\u73fe\uff1a<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s2\">1 .<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u89aa\u5bc6\u6050\u61fc<\/span><span class=\"s2\"> fear of intimacy<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u4eba\u5011\u5f80\u5f80\u5c0d\u65bc\u4f34\u4fb6\u4e4b\u9593\u7684\u89aa\u66b1\u884c\u70ba\u5f88\u6297\u62d2\uff0c\u6bd4\u5982\u727d\u624b\u3001\u64c1\u62b1\u3001\u6027\u63a5\u89f8\u7b49\u7b49\u3002\u751a\u81f3\u6709\u6642\u4f34\u4fb6\u5c0d\u81ea\u5df1\u8868\u9054\u95dc\u5fc3\u6642\uff0c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u90fd\u6703\u89ba\u5f97\u7a92\u606f\u5230\u60f3\u8981\u8eb2\u958b\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u5c0d<span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>\u79c1\u4eba\u7a7a\u9593\u7684\u9700\u6c42\u5f88\u9ad8<\/strong><\/span>\uff0c\u95dc\u4fc2\u7684\u62c9\u8fd1\u6703\u4f7f\u4ed6\u5011\u7522\u751f\u4e00\u7a2e\u88ab\u63a7\u5236\u7684\u6050\u61fc\u611f\u3002\u4ed6\u5011\u5728\u95dc\u4fc2\u4e2d\u4e5f\u96a8\u6642\u8655\u65bc\u9632\u5fa1\u72c0\u614b\uff0c\u6e96\u5099\u8457\u95dc\u9589\u81ea\u5df1\u7684<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u611f\u95a5\u9580\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff0c\u5f9e\u95dc\u4fc2\u4e2d\u64a4\u96e2\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s2\">2 <\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u5047\u6027\u7368\u7acb<\/span><span class=\"s2\"> pseudo-independence<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u4eba\u5e38\u5e38\u58d3\u6291\u81ea\u5df1\u5c0d\u65bc\u89aa\u5bc6\u95dc\u4fc2\u7684\u9700\u8981\uff0c\u8aaa\u81ea\u5df1\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u5c0d\u8ac7\u6200\u611b\u4e0d\u611f\u8208\u8da3\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u6216\u662f\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u8ac7\u6200\u611b\u597d\u9ebb\u7169\u554a\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\uff0c\u4e26\u4e14\u770b\u4f3c\u5f88\u7368\u7acb\uff0c\u6240\u4ee5\u5c0d\u4ed6\u5011\u4f86\u8aaa\uff0c\u9032\u5165\u4e00\u6bb5\u89aa\u5bc6\u95dc\u4fc2\u662f\u5f88\u56f0\u96e3\u7684\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5373\u4fbf\u5728\u8ac7\u6200\u611b\u6642\u9047\u5230\u6975\u7aef\u7684\u61c9\u6fc0\u4e8b\u4ef6\uff0c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u4e5f\u6703\u7aed\u529b\u88dd\u4f5c\u6f20\u4e0d\u95dc\u5fc3\u3002\u6bd4\u5982\u9762\u5c0d\u4f34\u4fb6\u63d0\u51fa\u5206\u624b\u7684\u5a01\u8105\uff0c\u4ed6\u5011\u53ef\u80fd\u4e5f\u6703\u7121\u6240\u8b02\u5730\u8073\u8073\u80a9\u8aaa\uff1a\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u96a8\u4fbf\u4f60\u554a\uff0c\u4e0d\u884c\u5c31\u5206\u5504\u3002\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s2\">3 <\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u82b1\u82b1\u516c\u5b50<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u7684\u53e6\u4e00\u7a2e\u7279\u6b8a\u8868\u73fe\u662f\uff1a\u4e00\u76f4\u5728\u5c0b\u627e\u89aa\u5bc6\u95dc\u4fc2\uff0c\u4f46\u4e5f\u4e00\u76f4\u55ae\u8eab\uff0c\u7e3d\u662f\u64a9\u5b8c\u5c31\u8dd1\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u4ed6\u5011\u5728\u6200\u60c5\u521d\u671f\u4e5f\u6703\u8868\u73fe\u51fa\u8f03\u9ad8\u7684\u6295\u5165\u548c\u71b1\u60c5\uff0c\u4f46\u662f\u4e00\u65e6\u95dc\u4fc2\u6709\u9032\u5c55\uff0c\u6216\u8da8\u65bc\u7a69\u5b9a\uff0c\u4ed6\u5011\u51b7\u6f20\u548c\u9000\u7e2e\u7684\u7279\u9ede\u5c31\u6703\u986f\u73fe\u51fa\u4f86\uff0c\u901a\u904e\u5404\u7a2e\u65b9\u6cd5\u4f86\u9003\u907f\u95dc\u4fc2\u7684\u9032\u4e00\u6b65\u767c\u5c55\uff0c\u6216\u662f\u627e\u85c9\u53e3\u5206\u624b\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-74488 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/03\/p41278258.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"266\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u7684\u5177\u9ad4\u8868\u73fe<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u9664\u4e86\u4e0a\u8ff0\u7684\u4e3b\u8981\u7279\u5fb5\uff0c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u9084\u901a\u904e\u5f88\u591a\u7a2e\u65b9\u5f0f\u4f86\u8868\u9054\u3002\u7e3d\u9ad4\u4f86\u8aaa\uff0c\u58d3\u6291\u662f\u4ed6\u5011\u5e38\u7528\u7684\u7b56\u7565\uff0c\u96d6\u7136\u5177\u9ad4\u8868\u73fe\u6709\u6240\u4e0d\u540c\uff0c\u4f46\u672c\u8cea\u4e0a\u90fd\u662f\u70ba\u4e86\u907f\u514d\u5c0d\u7576\u4e0b\u5c0d\u89aa\u5bc6\u7684\u6e34\u671b\uff0c\u4f8b\u5982\uff1a<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">1.\u5c08\u6ce8\u65bc\u6311\u5254\u4f34\u4fb6\u7684\u7f3a\u9ede<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">2.\u7f8e\u5316\u524d\u4efb\uff0c\u8a8d\u70ba\u901d\u53bb\u7684\u6200\u60c5\u662f\u6700\u7f8e\u597d\u7684<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">3.\u4fdd\u6301\u758f\u96e2\uff0c\u4e0d\u9032\u884c\u81ea\u6211\u66b4\u9732<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">4.\u559c\u6b61\u90a3\u4e9b\u4e0d\u53ef\u80fd\u4ea4\u5f80\u7684\u4eba<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u4e5f\u6709\u5c0d\u65bc\u611b\u548c\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u9700\u6c42\uff0c\u4ed6\u5011\u53ea\u662f\u7121\u6cd5\u628a\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u611b\u50b3\u905e\u7d66\u5c0d\u65b9\uff0c\u4e5f\u7121\u6cd5\u5f9e\u4ed6\u4eba\u90a3\u88e1\u63a5\u53d7\u5230\u611b\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u662f\u600e\u6a23\u5f62\u6210\u7684\uff1f<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u5728\u7ae5\u5e74\u901a\u5e38\u906d\u9047\u904e\u7236\u6bcd\u7684\u60c5\u611f\u5ffd\u8996\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s3\">emotional neglect<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff09\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5982\u679c\u6bcd\u89aa\u5c0d\u65bc\u5b69\u5b50\u7684\u964d\u751f\u672c\u8eab\u662f\u4e0d\u671f\u5f85\u7684\u3001\u7121\u6e96\u5099\u7684\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u662f\u5145\u6eff\u4e86\u61ca\u6094\u548c\u5931\u671b\uff0c\u90a3\u9ebc\u5979\u53ef\u80fd\u5c31\u6703\u51b7\u6f20\u5730\u5c0d\u5f85\u5b69\u5b50\uff0c\u5f88\u5c11\u7d66\u4e88\u56de\u61c9\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u7136\u800c\u5152\u7ae5\u662f\u5929\u751f\u9700\u8981\u6bcd\u89aa\u7684\u611b\u548c\u7167\u9867\u7684\uff0c\u4f46\u6bcf\u6b21\u5c0d\u6bcd\u89aa\u7684\u4f9d\u6200\u6709\u6e34\u671b\u548c\u9700\u6c42\u6642\uff0c\u4ed6\u5011\u90fd\u6703\u56e0\u906d\u5230\u62d2\u7d55\u800c\u7522\u751f\u5fc3\u7406\u75db\u82e6\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u4e45\u800c\u4e45\u4e4b\uff0c\u51fa\u65bc\u5c0d\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u4fdd\u8b77\uff0c\u4ed6\u5011\u4fbf\u6703\u505a\u51fa\u7684\u7121\u53ef\u5948\u4f55\u7684\u9078\u64c7\uff1a\u8ff4\u907f\u4e00\u5207\u4f9d\u6200\u9700\u6c42\u548c\u89aa\u5bc6\u63a5\u89f8\uff0c\u4e26\u8aaa\u670d\u81ea\u5df1\uff1a\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u6211\u4e0d\u9700\u8981\u5b83\u3002\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-74489 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/03\/p41278265.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"266\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">\u7576\u8ff4\u907f\u9047\u5230\u7126\u616e\uff1a\u4f86\u554a\uff0c\u4e92\u76f8\u50b7\u5bb3\u554a<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u6700\u53ef\u6015\u4f46\u4e5f\u6700\u5e38\u898b\u7684\u662f\uff0c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u5f88\u5bb9\u6613\u5438\u5f15\u5230\u7126\u616e\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u4eba\u3002\u4e00\u500b\u5c0d\u89aa\u5bc6\u6709\u6050\u61fc\uff0c\u4e00\u5b9a\u8981\u4fdd\u6301\u8ddd\u96e2\uff1b\u53e6\u4e00\u500b\u5c0d\u88ab\u62cb\u68c4\u6709\u6050\u61fc\uff0c\u62fc\u547d\u62c9\u8fd1\u8ddd\u96e2\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\">\uff08\u5ef6\u4f38\u95b1\u8b80\uff1a<a href=\"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/03\/07\/anxious-lover\/\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5e38\u5e38\u7528\u61a4\u6012\u548c\u758f\u96e2\u4f86\u8868\u9054\u611b\u610f\uff0c\u4f60\u4e5f\u662f\u9019\u7a2e\u300c\u7126\u616e\u578b\u300d\u60c5\u4eba\u55ce\uff1f<\/span><\/a>\uff09<\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u53c8\u56e0\u70ba\u5275\u50b7\u7684\u5f37\u8feb\u7684\u6027\u91cd\u8907\uff0c\u96d9\u65b9\u90fd\u6c89\u6d78\u5728<span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong>\u300c<\/strong><\/span><\/span><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s2\">\u4f60\u8ffd\u6211\u8dd1\u300d<\/span><\/strong><\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u9019\u7a2e\u719f\u6089\u7684\u75db\u82e6\u4e2d\u7121\u6cd5\u812b\u96e2\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u901a\u5e38\uff0c\u5169\u4eba\u7684\u771f\u5be6\u9700\u6c42\u90fd\u88ab\u8868\u9762\u7684\u758f\u96e2\u3001\u6297\u62d2\u6216\u8005\u61a4\u6012\u3001\u7126\u616e\u6240\u63a9\u84cb\uff0c\u76f8\u4e92\u4e0d\u80fd\u8b58\u5225\u5f7c\u6b64\u7684\u75db\u82e6\uff0c\u5c0e\u81f4\u6e9d\u901a\u4e0a\u7d93\u5e38\u51fa\u73fe\u969c\u7919\uff0c\u4e00\u4ef6\u5c0f\u4e8b\u53ef\u4ee5\u91c0\u9020\u6210\u5de8\u5927\u7684\u722d\u57f7\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5c0f\u7de8\u81ea\u5df1\u662f\u4e00\u500b\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u7684\u4eba\uff0c\u524d\u7537\u53cb\u662f\u975e\u5e38\u5178\u578b\u7684\u7126\u616e\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\uff0c\u4ed6\u6642\u523b\u60f3\u8981\u548c\u6211\u4fdd\u6301\u806f\u7e6b\uff0c\u898b\u9762\u7684\u6b21\u6578\u548c\u6642\u9593\u8d8a\u591a\u8d8a\u597d\uff0c\u4ed6\u6703\u60f3\u8981\u8a8d\u8b58\u6211\u7684\u6bcf\u500b\u670b\u53cb\uff0c\u5b8c\u5168\u7684\u878d\u5165\u6211\u7684\u751f\u6d3b\uff0c\u4f46\u9019\u8b93\u6211\u7279\u5225\u6050\u614c\uff0c\u89ba\u5f97\u4ed6\u548c\u6211\u8981\u50cf\u9023\u9ad4\u5b30\u4e00\u6a23\u6d3b\u8457\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u6211\u5006\u6700\u5927\u7684\u5206\u6b67\u5c31\u5728\u5c0d\u65bc\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u4f11\u606f\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u7684\u5b9a\u7fa9\u4e0a\uff0c\u4ed6\u89ba\u5f97\u5006\u4eba\u4e00\u8d77\u53bb\u5496\u5561\u9928\u5f85\u4e00\u6703\u5152\uff0c\u6216\u662f\u5230\u5c0d\u65b9\u5bb6\u4e00\u8d77\u770b\u500b\u96fb\u5f71\u662f\u5f88\u597d\u7684\u4f11\u606f\u653e\u9b06\u7684\u65b9\u5f0f\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u4f46\u5c0d\u65bc\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u7684\u6211\u4f86\u8b1b\uff0c\u7576\u6211\u8aaa\u60f3\u4f11\u606f\uff0c\u5c31\u610f\u5473\u8457\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u6211\u60f3\u4e00\u500b\u4eba\u5f85\u8457\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\uff0c\u6211\u4e5f\u60f3\u4e0d\u660e\u767d\uff0c\u4ed6\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u4e0d\u80fd\u7406\u89e3\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u898b\u9762\u662f\u4e00\u500b\u5f88\u8017\u795e\u7684\u4e8b\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5728\u6211\u5011\u4ea4\u5f80\u7684\u904e\u7a0b\u4e2d\uff0c\u4ed6\u7e3d\u662f\u63d0\u8981\u6c42\uff0c\u60f3\u8981\u9032\u4e00\u6b65\u518d\u9032\u4e00\u6b65\uff0c\u800c\u6211\u7e3d\u662f\u5728\u62d2\u7d55\uff0c\u60f3\u8981\u9000\u4e00\u6b65\u518d\u9000\u4e00\u6b65\uff0c\u62d2\u7d55\u7684\u540c\u6642\u611f\u5230\u5167\u759a\uff0c\u53c8\u611f\u89ba\u5c0d\u65b9\u4e0d\u4e86\u89e3\u81ea\u5df1\u3002\u7126\u616e\u578b\u8207\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u4ea4\u5f80\u7684\u65e5\u5b50\u554a\uff0c\u771f\u7684\u662f\u4e92\u76f8\u90fd\u5f88\u75db\u82e6\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-74486 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/03\/p41278209.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"234\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">\u600e\u6a23\u548c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u4eba\u76f8\u8655\uff1f<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u559c\u6b61\u7684\u4eba\u3001\u4ea4\u5f80\u7684\u4eba\u3001\u4f60\u7684\u4f34\u4fb6\u504f\u5411\u65bc\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\uff0c\u90a3\u9ebc\u4ee5\u4e0b\u662f\u4e00\u4e9b\u5728\u8207\u4ed6\u5011\u76f8\u8655\u6642\u7684\u5efa\u8b70\uff1a<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s3\">1.<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u4e0d\u8981\u5f37\u8feb\u4ed6\u5011<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5982\u679c\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u4f34\u4fb6\u5c0d\u4f60\u82e5\u5373\u82e5\u96e2\uff0c\u5f88\u6392\u65a5\u4f60\u7684\u63a5\u8fd1\u7684\u8a71\uff0c\u90a3\u9ebc\u9996\u5148\u4e0d\u8981\u5f37\u8feb\u4ed6\u5011\u63a5\u53d7\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5f37\u8feb\u6216\u8005\u66b4\u6012\u53ea\u6703\u8b93\u4ed6\u5011\u8655\u65bc\u66f4\u52a0\u6fc0\u70c8\u7684\u58d3\u529b\u72c0\u614b\u4e0b\uff0c\u8b8a\u5f97\u66f4\u52a0\u9000\u7e2e\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s3\">2.<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u5e6b\u52a9\u4ed6\u5011\u8a8d\u8b58\u4e26\u63a5\u53d7\u81ea\u5df1<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u6211\u5011\u80fd\u5920\u505a\u7684\uff0c\u662f\u52aa\u529b\u53bb\u5e6b\u52a9\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u8005\u66f4\u4e86\u89e3\u81ea\u5df1\uff0c\u8a8d\u8b58\u5230\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u884c\u70ba\u548c\u60c5\u611f\u53cd\u61c9\u7684\u898f\u5f8b\uff0c\u6bd4\u5982\u5728\u54ea\u7a2e\u60c5\u6cc1\u4e0b\u5bb9\u6613\u8b93\u4ed6\u5011\u7522\u751f\u8ff4\u907f\uff0c\u54ea\u4e9b\u662f\u4ed6\u5011\u96e3\u4ee5\u63a5\u53d7\u7684\u89aa\u5bc6\u8209\u52d5\u7b49\u7b49\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s3\">3.<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u8aaa\u51fa\u9700\u6c42\u800c\u4e0d\u662f\u73a9\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u5957\u8def\u300d<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u548c\u4ed6\u4eba\u76f8\u8655\u5f80\u5f80\u5728\u4e0d\u8212\u670d\u7684\u611f\u89ba\u4e0b\u7d50\u675f\uff0c\u4f46\u537b\u53cd\u5fa9\u767c\u751f\uff0c\u5c0e\u81f4\u4f60\u7e3d\u662f\u7522\u751f\u7591\u554f\uff1a\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u600e\u9ebc\u8001\u662f\u9019\u6a23\uff1f\u300d\u300c\u4ed6<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u7e3d\u662f\u8eb2\u8457\u6211\uff1f\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u9019\u53ef\u80fd\u662f\u56e0\u70ba\u4f60\u5011\u4e00\u76f4\u5728\u73a9\u300c\u5fc3\u7406\u904a\u6232\u300d\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s3\">mind game<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\uff09\uff0c\u96d9\u65b9\u9032\u5165\u5230\u4e00\u500b\u7121\u9650\u5faa\u74b0\u7684\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u5957\u8def\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u4e2d\uff0c\u7121\u6cd5\u6253\u7834\u6e9d\u901a\u6a21\u5f0f\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u95dc\u65bc\u5fc3\u7406\u904a\u6232\u4e0d\u591a\u8d05\u8ff0\uff0c\u60f3\u8981\u6253\u7834\u9019\u7a2e\u6a21\u5f0f\uff0c\u6211\u5011\u9700\u8981\u5bdf\u89ba\u4e26\u8868\u9054\u51fa\u81ea\u5df1\u771f\u5be6\u7684\u9700\u6c42\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s3\">authentic needs<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\uff09\uff0c\u95dc\u6ce8\u7576\u4e0b\u6b63\u5728\u767c\u751f\u7684\u6642\u523b\uff0c\u800c\u4e0d\u662f\u7528\u904e\u53bb\u7684\u7d93\u9a57\u61c9\u4ed8\u5c0d\u65b9\u3002\u5b83\u9700\u8981\u6211\u5011\u4e0d\u65b7\u7df4\u7fd2\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-74485 size-full\" src=\"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/3\/2017\/03\/p41278198.jpg\" width=\"600\" height=\"266\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p3\"><span style=\"color: #800000\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">\u8ff4\u907f\u578b\u4f9d\u6200\u7684\u4eba\u9084\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u6709\u6551\u300d\u55ce<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff1f<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s2\">\u5f8c\u53f0\u5e38\u5e38\u6536\u5230\u5f88\u591a\u7559\u8a00\uff0c\u90fd\u6709\u8457\u540c\u4e00\u7a2e\u8a34\u6c42\uff1a\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u6211\u662f\u8ff4\u907f\u578b<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\/<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u7126\u616e\u578b<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\/<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u6050\u61fc\u578b\uff08\u90fd\u5c6c\u65bc\u4e0d\u5b89\u5168\uff09\u4f9d\u6200\uff0c\u6211\u8a72\u600e\u9ebc\u8fa6\uff1f\u6211\u9084\u6709\u6551\u55ce\uff1f\u300d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u6211\u5011\u4e26\u4e0d\u63d0\u5021\u4e00\u500b\u4eba\u9700\u8981\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u7cfe\u6b63\u300d<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u4f9d\u6200\u6a21\u5f0f\u3002\u6bcf\u4e00\u7a2e\u4f9d\u6200\u5176\u5be6\u90fd\u662f\u901a\u904e\u81ea\u8eab\u7d93\u6b77\u800c\u5f62\u6210\u7684\u9632\u79a6\u6a21\u5f0f\uff0c\u4e00\u500b\u4eba\u4e4b\u6240\u4ee5\u6703\u9078\u64c7\u8ff4\u907f\u89aa\u5bc6\u95dc\u4fc2\uff0c\u90a3\u4e00\u5b9a\u662f\u9019\u7a2e\u65b9\u5f0f\u5728\u4e4b\u524d\u7684\u67d0\u4e00\u523b\u4fdd\u8b77\u904e\u4ed6<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\uff0c\u7522\u751f\u4e86\u7a4d\u6975\u7684\u53cd\u994b\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u4f9d\u6200\u6a21\u5f0f\u78ba\u5be6\u662f\u5f71\u97ff\u6df1\u9060\u7684\uff0c\u4f46\u4e26\u4e0d\u662f\u5b8c\u5168\u56fa\u5b9a\u4e0d\u8b8a\u3002\u6211\u5011\u53ef\u4ee5\u901a\u904e\u81ea\u7701\u548c\u8abf\u6574\uff0c\u4f86\u6e1b\u5c11\u4f9d\u6200\u6a21\u5f0f\u4e2d\u5e36\u4f86\u8ca0\u6027\u5f71\u97ff\u7684\u90a3\u4e9b\u65b9\u9762\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s3\">Dan Siegel\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\u535a\u58eb\u8a8d\u70ba\uff0c\u901a\u904e\u7406\u89e3\u65e9\u5e74\u7684\u7d93\u6b77\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s3\">making sense of your story<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\uff09\u53ef\u4ee5\u4f86\u9003\u812b\u88ab\u4e0d\u5b89\u5168\u7684\u4f9d\u6200\u6a21\u5f0f\u5b9a\u7fa9\u548c\u7981\u932e\u7684\u5883\u5730\u3002\u5176\u4e2d\u6700\u6709\u6548\u7684\u65b9\u6cd5\u5c31\u662f\u8a66\u8457\u53bb\u5beb\u81ea\u6211\u5c0f\u50b3\uff08<\/span><span class=\"s3\">coherent narrative<\/span><span class=\"s2\">\uff09\uff0c\u56de\u61b6\u81ea\u5df1\u904e\u53bb\u7684\u7d93\u6b77\uff0c\u4e26\u4e14\u91cd\u65b0\u5be9\u8996\u9019\u4e9b\u7d93\u6b77\u7684\u539f\u56e0\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s1\">\u4f8b\u5982\uff0c\u300c<\/span><span class=\"s1\">\u7236\u6bcd\u5c0d\u6211\u7684\u51b7\u6f20\u4e26\u4e0d\u662f\u56e0\u70ba\u6211\u4e0d\u53ef\u611b\uff0c\u53ef\u80fd\u662f\u4ed6\u5011\u6c92\u6709\u5b78\u6703\u5982\u4f55\u8868\u9054\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u611b\u3002<\/span><span 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