{"id":8771,"date":"2017-03-20T18:11:57","date_gmt":"2017-03-20T10:11:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/03\/20\/misfit\/"},"modified":"2021-07-14T11:46:35","modified_gmt":"2021-07-14T03:46:35","slug":"misfit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2017\/03\/20\/misfit\/","title":{"rendered":"\u300c\u6240\u6709\u7f8e\u597d\u7684\u4e8b\u7269\uff0c\u6211\u90fd\u4e0d\u914d\u64c1\u6709\u3002\u300d \u89e3\u6790\u300c\u683c\u683c\u4e0d\u5165\u8005\u300d\u7684\u5fc3\u8072"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote>\n<p class=\"p1\">\u300aVO\u300b\u5c0e\u8b80\uff1a<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">TED Talk 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