{"id":4800,"date":"2015-12-08T12:30:01","date_gmt":"2015-12-08T04:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2015\/12\/08\/happy-marriage-secrets\/"},"modified":"2021-06-16T13:45:35","modified_gmt":"2021-06-16T05:45:35","slug":"happy-marriage-secrets","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2015\/12\/08\/happy-marriage-secrets\/","title":{"rendered":"\u5a5a\u59fb\u5e78\u798f\u7684\u91cd\u8981\u95dc\u9375\u2014\u2014\u5343\u842c\u5225\u53c3\u8003\u7238\u5abd\u7684\u904e\u6642\u89c0\u5ff5"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/c1.staticflickr.com\/7\/6165\/6168801346_55ea65baac_z.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"426\" \/><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><span style=\"color: #333399;\">\u300aVO \u5c0e\u8b80\u300b\uff1a\u672c\u6587\u539f\u520a\u8f09\u65bc <em><a href=\"http:\/\/time.com\/3986644\/happy-marriage-secrets\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Time<\/a>\uff0c\u4ee5\u4e0b\u5167\u5bb9\u4ee5\u539f\u6587\u4f5c\u8005<\/em>\u00a0Eric Barker \u70ba\u7b2c\u4e00\u4eba\u7a31\u7de8\u8b6f\u3002<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>\u7d50\u5a5a\u5728\u73fe\u4ee3\u793e\u6703\u770b\u4f3c\u662f\u56f0\u96e3\u4e14\u6df7\u4e82\u7684\uff0c\u600e\u6a23\u624d\u7b97\u662f\u7684\u5e78\u798f\u5a5a\u59fb\uff1f\u4f3c\u4e4e\u6c92\u6709\u500b\u78ba\u5207\u7684\u7b54\u6848\u3002\u6240\u4ee5\u6211\u62dc\u8a2a\u4e86\u9019\u65b9\u9762\u7684\u5c08\u5bb6\u3002<\/p>\n<p>Stephanie Coontz \u5728 <a href=\"https:\/\/contemporaryfamilies.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Council on Contemporary Families<\/a> \u64d4\u4efb\u516c\u5171\u6559\u80b2\u7684\u7e3d\u76e3\u4ee5\u53ca\u5171\u540c\u4e3b\u5e2d\uff0c\u4e26\u5728\u9577\u9752\u5dde\u7acb\u5b78\u9662\uff08The Evergreen State College in Olympia, WA\uff09\u64d4\u4efb\u6559\u8077\uff0c\u8457\u4f5c\u5305\u542b\u300a<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B002I1XRZY\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B002I1XRZY&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=spacforrent-20&amp;linkId=X23YDNKN4KNKNP3J\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage<\/a>\u300b\u8207\u300a<a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/B001FSJ994\/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B001FSJ994&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=spacforrent-20&amp;linkId=FDNZWKMKNKJZXR4R\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The Way We Never Were: American Families And The Nostalgia Trap<\/a>\u300b\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u6211\u5011\u5e38\u807d\u5fc3\u7406\u5b78\u5bb6\u8207\u6cbb\u7642\u5e2b\u8ac7\u8ad6\u5a5a\u59fb\uff0c\u90a3 Stephanie Coontz \u7684\u8b1b\u89e3\u6709\u4ec0\u9ebc\u7279\u5225\u4e4b\u8655\u5462\uff1f\u5979\u5f9e\u6b77\u53f2\u7684\u89d2\u5ea6\u770b\u5a5a\u59fb\uff01\u5979\u7814\u7a76\u53e4\u5f80\u4eca\u4f86\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u90fd\u662f\u600e\u9ebc\u4e00\u56de\u4e8b\uff0c\u800c\u73fe\u4ee3\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u53c8\u6709\u4ec0\u9ebc\u4e0d\u540c\u4e4b\u8655\uff1f<\/p>\n<p>\u5979\u5728 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=gwtb7jz8G4k\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">PopTech Conference<\/a> \u7684\u6f14\u8b1b\u53ef\u4f5c\u7d50\u8ad6\u70ba\u4e00\u53e5\u8a71\uff1a<span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">\u4f60\u6240\u6709\u95dc\u65bc\u5a5a\u59fb\u7684\u8a8d\u77e5\u90fd\u662f\u932f\u8aa4\u7684\u3002<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u6211\u5011\u8981\u4e86\u89e3\u4e8b\u5be6\uff0c\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u73fe\u4ee3\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u5982\u6b64\u6df7\u4e82\uff0c\u7136\u5f8c\u5f97\u5230\u80fd\u8b93\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u8b8a\u5f97\u66f4\u52a0\u7f8e\u597d\u7684\u5c0f\u8a23\u7ac5\u3002<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h3><strong><span style=\"color: #800000;\">\u4f60\u6240\u6709\u95dc\u65bc\u5a5a\u59fb\u7684\u8a8d\u77e5\u90fd\u662f\u932f\u7684<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u4eba\u5011\u901a\u5e38\u8a8d\u70ba\u5f9e\u524d\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u95dc\u4fc2\u6bd4\u8f03\u7f8e\u597d\u3001\u55ae\u7d14\uff0c\u4e26\u4e0d\u6703\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u904e\u53bb\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u4e26\u4e0d\u6703\u6bd4\u8f03\u597d\uff0c\u53cd\u4e4b\uff0c\u90a3\u4e9b\u5a5a\u59fb\u95dc\u4fc2\u5b8c\u5168\u4e0d\u662f\u5efa\u69cb\u5728\u300c\u611b\u300d\u4e4b\u4e0a\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u5979\u7684\u66f8\u4e2d\u63d0\u5230\uff1a<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">\u78ba\u5be6\uff0c\u904e\u53bb\u6578\u5343\u5e74\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u4e2d\uff0c\u6709\u8a31\u591a\u4e5f\u662f\u6df1\u611b\u8457\u914d\u5076\u7684\uff0c\u4e0d\u904e\u300c\u611b\u300d\u4e26\u975e\u4e00\u6bb5\u5a5a\u59fb\u7684\u5fc5\u5099\u8981\u7d20\uff0c\u5728\u7576\u6642\uff0c<span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">\u653f\u6cbb\u6216\u7d93\u6fdf\u7684<\/span>\u56e0\u7d20\u53cd\u800c\u662f\u66f4\u52a0\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u9664\u4e86\u300c\u5a5a\u59fb\u4e26\u975e\u5efa\u69cb\u5728\u611b\u60c5\u4e4b\u4e0a\u300d\u9019\u500b\u6982\u5ff5\uff0c\u53e6\u4e00\u500b\u66f4\u9a5a\u4eba\u7684\u60f3\u6cd5\u662f\uff1a<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">\u5728\u53e4\u5370\u5ea6\uff0c\u5a5a\u524d\u8ac7\u6200\u611b\u88ab\u8996\u70ba\u4e00\u7a2e\u4e0d\u6b63\u5e38\u7684\u3001\u985b\u8986\u6027\u751a\u81f3\u662f\u53cd\u793e\u6703\u7684\u884c\u70ba\uff1b\u5728\u4e2d\u570b\uff0c\u592b\u59bb\u4e4b\u9593\u5c55\u73fe\u904e\u591a\u7684\u611b\u610f\uff0c\u5247\u88ab\u8996\u70ba\u662f\u5c0d\u5927\u5bb6\u5ead\u5718\u7d50\u7684\u5a01\u8105\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u90a3\u9ebc\uff0c\u904e\u53bb\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u5230\u5e95\u597d\u5728\u54ea\u88e1\u5462\uff1f<\/p>\n<p>\u5a5a\u59fb\u7684\u597d\u8655\u5728\u65bc\u300c\u5efa\u7acb\u59fb\u89aa\u95dc\u4fc2\u300d\uff0c\u4ee5\u4e0b\u662f Stephanie \u7684\u89e3\u91cb\uff1a<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u5a5a\u59fb\u4e0d\u53ea\u662f\u5169\u4eba\uff08\u6216\u591a\u4eba\uff09\u4e4b\u9593\u7684\u4e8b\u60c5\uff0c\u771f\u6b63\u91cd\u8981\u4e4b\u8655\u5728\u65bc\uff0d\u5b83\u662f<span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">\u5efa\u7acb\u59fb\u89aa\u95dc\u4fc2<\/span>\u7684\u65b9\u5f0f\u3002<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>\u670b\u53cb\u5011\uff0c\u60f3\u60f3\u770b\u300a\u6b0a\u529b\u904a\u6232\u300b\uff08HBO 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\u63a5\u8457\u8aaa\uff1a<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u7576\u6642\u7684\u4eba\u5011\u8a8d\u77e5\u5230\u5efa\u69cb\u5728\u611b\u4e4b\u4e0a\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u53ef\u80fd\u662f\u975e\u5e38\u4e0d\u7a69\u5b9a\u7684\uff0c\u5982\u679c\u5f7c\u6b64\u4e4b\u524d\u7a81\u7136\u6c92\u6709\u611b\uff0c\u90a3\u9ebc\u9019\u4e00\u6bb5\u5a5a\u59fb\u5c31\u544a\u5439\u4e86\uff0c\u4eba\u5011\u4e5f\u6703\u5c0d\u662f\u5426\u8981\u8d70\u5165\u5a5a\u59fb\u7336\u8c6b\u4e0d\u6c7a\uff0c\u4eba\u5011\u5bb3\u6015\u4e14\u64d4\u5fc3\uff1a\u300c\u600e\u9ebc\u53ef\u80fd\u6703\u627e\u5230\u548c\u767d\u982d\u5055\u8001\u7684\u4f34\u4fb6\uff1f\u300d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>\u4f46\u662f\u4e16\u754c\u8b8a\u4e86\uff0c\u6211\u5011\u4e0d\u518d\u9700\u8981\u5bb6\u65cf\u901a\u5a5a\u4ee5\u978f\u56fa\u7e7c\u627f\u4eba\u7684\u738b\u4f4d\uff0c\u53d6\u800c\u4ee3\u4e4b\u7684\u662f\u300c\u611b\u300d\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\uff0c\u800c\u4eca\u65e5\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u81ea\u7531\uff0c\u9020\u5c31\u4e86\u66f4\u9ad8\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u6eff\u610f\u5ea6\u3002\u800c\u6bd4\u6eff\u610f\u5ea6\u66f4\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u662f\uff0c\u5a66\u5973\u7684\u81ea\u6bba\u7387\u964d\u4f4e\uff0c\u800c\u7537\u751f\u5011\u4e5f\u4e0d\u7528\u64d4\u5fc3\u6709\u5929\u6703\u88ab\u81ea\u5df1\u7684\u59bb\u5b50\u8b00\u6bba\u4e86\u3002<\/p>\n<p>\u6839\u64da 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#ff6600;\">\u5225\u518d\u770b\u904e\u53bb\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u662f\u5982\u4f55<\/span>\u3002\u4e0d\u8981\u62ff\u4f60\u7684\u5a5a\u59fb\u548c 1950 \u5e74\u4ee3\u6216\u8005\u4efb\u4f55\u6642\u4ee3\u505a\u6bd4\u8f03\uff0c\u73fe\u5728\u662f\u4e00\u500b\u52c7\u6562\u7684\u65b0\u4e16\u754c\uff0c\u5a5a\u59fb\u662f\u57fa\u65bc\u611b\u8207\u5e73\u7b49\uff0c\u6240\u6709\u8001\u820a\u7684\u898f\u5b9a\u90fd\u4e0d\u6210\u7acb\u4e86\uff0cStephanie 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