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To sin is human nature, yet we don’t commit moral crimes everyday. However, more than a few of us do complain on a daily basis, so it’s not an understatement to say complaining is second nature to us. Not only that, we also like to do it together, seeking solace and (A)camaraderie <\/strong><\/span>from one another when (B) venting anger<\/span>. <\/strong>The negativity could be marginally positive in alleviating the stress of daily life, but the long-term effect is determinedly undesirable. Research shows that problem-solving and cognitive abilities are hampered not just by our own complaining, but by listening to other people’s gripes as well.<\/p>\n

It’s never easy to get rid of something rooted in nature, but a few books and ideas are there to help us. First off, to combat habitual complaining, you need to identify what counts as “complaining” and what doesn’t.<\/p>\n

“It’s cold outside” is neutral, but “It’s cold outside and I hate the weather” is a negative statement. Secondly, you should keep a note of the number of times that you complain in a day.<\/p>\n

After the initial preparations, you can start taking some concrete steps like distancing yourself from the complainers among your friends, and adopting a proactive attitude. Whining together doesn’t constitute healthy friendships, and things that you dislike won’t (1) disappear into thin air <\/strong>just by swearing and (2) pointing fingers at <\/strong>them.<\/p>\n

There are also a couple of tricks that you could use to avoid regression. For example, when you feel like (C) ranting <\/strong><\/span>about your boss, you can say “He gave me too much work, BUT I was able to finished it in time,” and instead of yelling “I can’t believe I HAVE TO make the presentation,” you can change the negativity by thinking “I can’t believe I GET TO make the presentation.”<\/p>\n

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