{"id":11949,"date":"2018-04-30T09:27:13","date_gmt":"2018-04-30T01:27:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2018\/04\/30\/the-problem-of-over-friendly\/"},"modified":"2021-06-16T12:18:28","modified_gmt":"2021-06-16T04:18:28","slug":"the-problem-of-over-friendly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/vidaorange\/2018\/04\/30\/the-problem-of-over-friendly\/","title":{"rendered":"\u70ba\u4ec0\u9ebc\u597d\u4eba\u53cd\u800c\u4e0d\u88ab\u559c\u6b61&#8230;&#8230;\u5fc3\u7406\u5b78\uff1a\u5176\u5be6\u300c\u4e0d\u53cb\u597d\u300d\u4e00\u9ede\uff0c\u4f60\u7684\u4eba\u7de3\u6703\u66f4\u597d\uff01"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"attachment_112656\" style=\"width: 610px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-112656\" class=\"wp-image-112656 size-full\" 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