{"id":18538,"date":"2014-07-22T14:45:21","date_gmt":"2014-07-22T06:45:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/buzzorange.com\/citiorange\/2014\/07\/22\/say-no-without-burning-bridges\/"},"modified":"2014-07-22T14:45:21","modified_gmt":"2014-07-22T06:45:21","slug":"say-no-without-burning-bridges","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buzzorange.com\/citiorange\/2014\/07\/22\/say-no-without-burning-bridges\/","title":{"rendered":"\u4fbf\u5229\u8cbc\u7537\u5b69\u3001\u5973\u5b69\u786c\u8d77\u4f86\uff0c\u6559\u4f60\u5411\u4e0d\u5408\u7406\u7684\u5de5\u4f5c\u8aaa\u300c\u4e0d\u300d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/thumb\/b\/b4\/Postit.jpg\/1024px-Postit.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/thumb\/b\/b4\/Postit.jpg\/1024px-Postit.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"574\" height=\"430\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u4f5c\u8005 Holy Week 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style=\"color: #800000;\"><strong>Neutral no<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u6bcf\u500b\u4eba\u6536\u5230\u5426\u5b9a\u7b54\u8986\u7684\u8868\u73fe\u90fd\u4e0d\u4e00\u6a23\uff0c\u6709\u4e9b\u4eba\u6703\u751f\u6c23\u3001\u611f\u5230\u5341\u5206\u7126\u616e\uff1b\u800c\u6709\u4e9b\u4eba\u5c31\u7b97\u4f60\u8aaa\u4e86\u300c\u4e0d\u300d\uff0c\u4ed6\u4ecd\u6703\u5617\u8a66\u300cyes the 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#ff00ff;\"><strong>\u807d\u8d77\u4f86\u85c9\u53e3\u4e00\u5806<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u5f88\u591a\u4eba\u559c\u6b61\u907f\u91cd\u5c31\u8f15\u5730\u63d0\u51fa\u62d2\u7d55\u7684\u7406\u7531\uff0c\u4ed6\u5011\u5f9e\u6700\u4e0d\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u4e8b\u60c5\u958b\u59cb\u8b1b\u8d77\u300c\u6211\u6709\u4e8b\u300d\u3001\u300c\u6709\u4e00\u9ede\u5c0f\u4e8b\u8981\u8655\u7406\u300d\u4e4b\u985e\u7684\u3002\u9019\u4e9b\u807d\u8d77\u4f86\u4e0d\u592a\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u7406\u7531\u5bb9\u6613\u88ab\u63a8\u7ffb\uff0c\u4e5f\u6c92\u6709\u4ec0\u9ebc\u8aaa\u670d\u529b\uff0c\u807d\u8d77\u4f86\u53ea\u50cf\u4e00\u500b\u53c8\u4e00\u500b\u7684\u85c9\u53e3\u3002\u5982\u679c\u4f60\u4e0d\u60f3\u8b93\u5c0d\u65b9\u61f7\u7591\u4f60\u7684\u8aa0\u610f\uff0c\u6700\u597d\u7684\u65b9\u6cd5\u5c31\u662f\u76f4\u63a5\u628a\u6700\u91cd\u8981\u7684\u7406\u7531\u8b1b\u51fa\u4f86\u3002<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: 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